I suffered the usual anger, frustration and distress of Traditional Parenting with my first son, all the while believing I was a perfect parent. I was a stay-at-home mom in the nineteen-fifties surrounded by other parents who shared my lifestyle and Parenting techniques. We didn't know the problems we had with our children were the direct result of our Traditional Authoritarian Parenting practices.
A few months after the birth of another son when my first son was eight years old, I was invited to an introductory talk on PARENT EFFECTIVENESS TRAINING and my world was changed forever.
P.E.T. transformed me from a screaming, punishing horror of a person into a problem-solving human being. And here I am 47 years later, apologizing to my oldest son for the way I treated him.
Speaking from personal experience, I see one reason to learn how to be an effective non-punishing parent is to save yourself from the terrible guilt when in your "old age" you find yourself looking back on your mistakes. Allow me to spare you this guilt!
This book can prevent such an unhappy outcome as it guides you toward and into the wonderful world of effective problem solving ways of Working With children in place of the ineffective damaging ways of Doing To them.
* Although Dr. Skinner advocated against all punishments, including
the paddling of school children, I have come to view his development of the Behaviorism methods for controlling children to be limitless in the damage they have done to our children and to our society. My reasons for this belief are detailed in the pages of this book.